Rebuilding trust after an affair is just one of many steps you need to take in overcoming the devastation brought on by infidelity. However, if you take the right steps and sincerely want to restore trust after an affair, it is possible to do so.
Tips For Rebuilding Trust After An Affair
The first step in rebuilding trust is ending the relationship with the other man / woman. It's important that you make it clear to your partner and to the other person that the affair is over. With that, your actions must back up your words. By that I mean you need to end not only the physical connection you had but also emotional and practical connections as well.
I would recommend you get rid of all the phone numbers, email addresses, pictures, gifts and anything else that will remind you or your partner about the affair. It will also help you resist the temptation to call or email the other person under the false pretenses of just checking to see how they are doing. Ending the affair will be difficult, especially if things in your relationship are not quite right yet. Do not assume you have the power to resist falling again.
The next step I would suggest you take is to be willing to answer all of your partner's questions regarding how difficult they may be. The road to rebuilding trust after an affair starts with your partner being able to trust that you are being honest with your answers. You may feel the need to withhold or tell little white lies for fear of further hurting your partner. It's a fine line and you risk being seen as a liar if you do not tell the whole truth. Be honest and open and it will help you restore trust.
Another tip for rebuilding trust is to avoid trying to place conditions on rebuilding your relationship such as putting deadlines on receiving forgiveness or sometimes being intimate again, after an affair. If you do it will just confirm that you have no idea how much pain you have caused and also highlight your selfishness.
Finally, I would strongly suggest that you leave no doubt about your renewed commitment and desire to be faithful in your relationship. You know you have a weakness so do not put yourself in situations where you can fall again or your partner suspects that you are going to be unfaithful again.
Both men and women must guard their minds and hearts in order to avoid giving in to temptation situations. Every human being is capable of having an affair. You need to be diligent in not allowing yourself to inflict such pain and destruction on your partner and family again.
Rebuilding trust after an affair is not easy but if you have your mind and heart in the right place you can do it. Your partner is no doubt hurting and angry but if you can be humble, patient, remorseful and recommended, things can be worked out.
Source by DP Haynes